5 Ways to Easily Find Out If She Is Single

Want to find out if she is single without making things awkward?

Sure, it would be great if every woman you met in person had “Available” or “Unavailable” in flashing lights above her head.

While I can’t wave a magic wand and make that a reality, what I can do is help you find out in one of five easy ways, which we’ll get into right now.

First things first, let’s make sure you’re feeling confident to begin with, yeah? The best way to ensure that for free is inside this handy and fun 22-page ebook.

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As for finding out if a woman is single or taken, here are the steps…


Bring up dating in one of these casual ways:

Mentioning the topic of dating doesn’t have to be an uncomfortable experience. It can be as easygoing as being curious, moving things along with her gently, or even bringing it up almost as a hobby. You can discover much more about dating here.

Here are several ways to directly or indirectly ask if someone is single:


(1) You can find out in a relaxed easy tone…

“By the way, are you single? I saw you with that guy and wasn’t sure…”

This gives her a good indication that you are feeling attracted to her, while being relaxed in your body language and eye contact, and giving her lots of space to tell you whether or not she is available.

So many wins!


(2) You can also be gentle and direct…

“Can I take you on a date sometime?”

Once you’ve warmed up to her and have read her flirting signs, you can gently ask for her number or invite her on a date (and let her decline as needed!).

Then she can tell you right then and there whether she’s available; no harm, no foul.


(3) You can bring up dating as a hobby, almost…

“I’ve been dating lately, and it’s been a lot of fun to meet new interesting people.”

This gives her an opportunity to share about her experience as well! Be sure to make eye contact after delivering this line, which will invite her to respond.

If you view dating as a hobby of sorts (meeting women and going on dates is pretty fun, after all!), then this starts to feel quite natural.

By bringing this subject up in a no-pressure fun way, two things happen:

  • You automatically differentiate yourself from the very large and un-fun crowd who complains about dating. (Complaining is no one’s best look!)
  • You open the door for her to discuss her own dating life without any awkwardness.

Best of all, if she turns out to have a significant other, you didn’t even ask; you were just sharing your own experience.

You’re not out on a limb, risking rejection; you’re just having a fun time and exploring if a girl is single.


Sometimes you don’t have to ask her directly at all.

If it feels more natural to find out without asking her, go for it!

Here are some subtle, smooth ways to find out if she’s single without asking her outright:


(4) Consult mutual friends.

If you meet a woman at the grocery store, coffee shop, or anywhere out and about, then you’re not going to be able to ask a mutual friend because you likely don’t have friends in common.

But if meet her through friends or have coworkers in common, you can simply ask those folks in person or via text.


(5) Check social media.

If it’s natural to ask to connect with her on Instagram or Facebook, then you can see her relationship status right there in the app if it’s on there.

This way, you get your answer after simply asking to connect on social media, without asking her relationship status outright.


Obvious but noteworthy: See if she’s wearing a wedding ring.

While her not having a ring on her ring finger doesn’t mean that she’s *not* taken, her having a ring on the fourth finger of her left hand does mean that she *is* taken or at least is wanting to appear taken with the symbolic presence of an engagement or wedding ring.

Obviously, a ring on her left hand doesn’t mean anything except that she likes jewelry. ;)

Also, pay attention to her body language to tell whether or not she seems open to you approaching her in the first place. For help with this, check out these articles:


Conclusion on how to find out if she is single

For many guys, to find out if a girl is single feels too vulnerable and sounds too aggressive, so they hold back… and they never find out the answer.

But by practicing these keys, you can directly or indirectly ask the question even if you’re on the shy side.


What about the bigger picture of feeling desirable as a man?

Feeling desirable is the best way to gain courage to find out if she desires you! To do that, find your unique attractiveness in our ebook (namely the exercise on page 8!).

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