Want to find out if she is single without making things awkward?
Online dating may not be perfect, but at least you can be confident that the woman you just met on Bumble is available.
In person, though? Progressing to a date gets a lot harder.
For example, do you ever have a great conversation with a woman, let her walk away without getting her number, and then wonder,
“Did I just blow a golden opportunity?”
The trouble is, it’s hard to know if she’s single.
But it doesn’t have to be so complicated.
It really doesn’t!
Sure, it would be great if every woman you met in person had “Available” or “Unavailable” in flashing lights above her head.
While I can’t wave a magic wand and make that a reality, what I can do is help you find out in one of five easy ways, which we’ll get into right now.
First, you should know that finding out if she’s single does NOTHING for you if you don’t think she’d want to date you, right? So that is important to take care of. Happily, you can make massive progress on that in our free ebook on finding what is uniquely attractive about you as an introverted guy.
Back to finding out if a woman is single or taken…
There are a million reasons NOT to find out if she is single.
The problem is, not finding out leads to a whole lot of nothing. And we want SOMETHING with a beautiful woman as long as she’s available and interested.
It’s easier to find out than you think!
Here are the steps…
Bring up dating in one of these casual ways:
Mentioning the topic of dating doesn’t have to be an uncomfortable experience. It can be as chill and easygoing as being curious, moving things along with her gently, or even bringing it up almost as a hobby.
Here are several ways to directly or indirectly ask if someone is single:
(1) You can find out in a relaxed easy tone…
“By the way, are you single? I saw you with that guy and wasn’t sure…”
This gives her a good indication that you are feeling attracted to her, while being relaxed in your body language and eye contact, and giving her lots of space to tell you whether or not she is available.
(2) You can also be gentle and direct…
“Can I take you on a date sometime?”
(3) You can bring up dating as a hobby, almost…
“I’ve been dating lately, and it’s been a lot of fun to meet new interesting people.”
This gives her an opportunity to share about her experience as well!
If you view dating as a hobby of sorts (meeting women and going on dates is pretty fun, after all!), then this starts to feel quite natural.
By bringing this subject up in a no-pressure fun way, two things happen:
- You automatically differentiate yourself from the very large and un-fun crowd who complains about dating. (Complaining is no one’s best look!)
- You open the door for her to discuss her own dating life without any awkwardness.
Best of all, if she turns out to have a significant other, you didn’t even ask; you were just sharing your own experience.
You’re not out on a limb, risking rejection; you’re just having a fun time and exploring.
Sometimes you don’t have to ask her directly at all.
If it feels more natural to find out without asking her, go for it!
Here are some subtle, smooth ways to find out if she’s single without asking her outright:
(4) Consult mutual friends.
But if meet her through friends or have coworkers in common, you can simply ask those folks in person or via text.
(5) Check social media.
If it’s natural to ask to connect with her on Instagram or Facebook, then you can see her relationship status right there in the app if it’s listed.
This way, you get your answer after simply asking to connect on social media, without asking her relationship status outright.
Obvious but noteworthy: See if she’s wearing a wedding ring.
While her not having a ring on her ring finger doesn’t mean that she’s *not* taken, her having a ring on the fourth finger of her right hand does mean that she *is* taken or at least is wanting to appear taken with the symbolic presence of a ring. Obviously, a ring on her left hand doesn’t mean anything.
Conclusion on how to find out if she is single
For some guys, to find out if she is single feels like no big deal.
For many others, though, to find out if a girl is single feels too vulnerable and sounds too aggressive, so they hold back… and they never find out the answer.
But by practicing these keys, you can directly or indirectly ask the question even if you’re on the shy side.
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