How to Approach Women as an Introvert: 8 Easy Ways

Expert tips for men wondering how to approach women as an introvert

Learning how to approach women as an introvert means overcoming approach anxiety… yet that task can feel impossible without dating advice that is specifically geared towards you, an introverted man!

Are you ready to feel comfortable and confident when you’re approaching women? Does it seem like most of the “advice” you’ve encountered only works for extroverts?

If so, you’re in the right place.

Today, we aren’t only sharing how to approach women as an introvert… we’re sharing 8 tips that build on each other and feel natural, authentic, and play to your strengths.


Self-development comes first

No matter how many techniques you learn, how deeply you study the psychology of single women, or even how often you put yourself in the right place at the right time…

Without this #1 essential trait, everything will fall flat.

Do you know what it is?

CONFIDENCE: it’s knowing exactly who you are, what you’re looking for, and why… that’s when you’ll really start approaching women with irresistible purpose and authentic confidence.

Need a good launching pad to start building your confidence from the ground up? That’s exactly what this free 22-page ebook helps you with!

The other half of the equation?

Your confidence naturally grows when you follow through on your goals.

Let’s say your goal is to improve your dating life. You decide to start one conversation with a woman each week.

No matter how that conversation turns out, your confidence will grow at the same rate as your follow through!

Our ebook (“Why PUA Doesn’t Work For Introverts & What Works Instead”) will help you become more confident and approach women without cheesy pickup lines!

Download it now to read after this post :)

Now, let’s dive in! 


Approaching Women: 8 Steps for Introverts

Does popular dating advice ever sound like “pick up line” this and “fake it till you make it” that?

Not here at IA. We believe that introverts have too much to offer to pretend to be anyone they’re not.

So, without further ado, here are these 8 tips that build on each other for how to approach women as an introvert.


1. Focus on creating a warm connection
Mindset-wise, remember that when you bring your full humanity to the table, you immediately make yourself more relatable and intriguing.

In doing so, you also make it more comfortable for others to be themselves! This creates an authentic, natural connection, which is the foundation of any healthy relationship or friendship.

2. Trust your gut
When you walk into a room, pay attention to who you already feel naturally drawn to. Their energy attracts you for a reason… follow that magnetic pull!

3. Catch her eye and give her a flirty glance
This can be as simple as a shy smile, a very quick (NOT CREEPY) up and down sweep with your eyes to let her know you’re attracted to her, or a even throw in a little lip bite if you’re feeling brave. Hold her gaze briefly before looking away.

4. Walk up to a woman with a smile and a wave
If you never try, you’ll never know! Maybe she brushes you off… then you can walk away proud that you at least tried. What if she smiles back, though, and you strike up a great conversation?!

5. Not sure what to say? Steal this 10-word formula

Starting a chat online (like on dating apps) is so different from an in-person conversation (at a coffee shop, for example). If you’re feeling uneasy, don’t panic! Steal our 10-word formula:

“I noticed you, and I had to come say ‘hi.’”

5. Maintain a fun, energetic conversation
Our best advice for learning how to approach women as an introvert and keep the good vibes rolling?

Stay curious.

Roll with the banter, ask some questions, and answer some questions lightheartedly and playfully. If it’s simply not flowing, it’s okay to bow out graciously and tell her that you hope she has a good rest of her day!

6. See how she reacts to gentle, playful touch
ONLY progress to this step if she seems excited to be talking, flirting, and asking questions. If she reciprocates your touch, great! If she retracts, don’t worry. Different people prefer different paces when it comes to touch.

7. Point out what you notice or admire about her
AKA, the reason you came to say “hi” in the first place! Everybody loves a genuine compliment, and it makes your desires pretty clear from the get-go.

8. Maintain a strong sense of confidence, no matter what happens.
Hint hint – download our ebook, mentioned above!


Final thoughts: how to approach women as an introvert

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Now that you know how to approach women as an introvert , you’ll be able to do so with more confidence (and more success)!

Your Next Steps

The real work begins AFTER you learn how to approach women as an introvert! Here’s what to do next to make sure your dating and leadership skills keep improving:

  1. For more advice about meeting women, read this article: What To Say When Approaching A Girl You Don’t Know.
  2. Remember to download our free ebook, “Why PUA Doesn’t Work for Introverts & What Works Instead” to build up your confidence!

For more personalized support, consider our Become A Benevolent Badass program.

Becoming more empathetic, authentic, humble, and confident doesn’t mean changing who you are. Developing your own unique vibe simply means becoming the best and truest version of yourself and expecting the same to be true of your partner.

To become your best and most confident self, consider Becoming A Benevolent Badass. Through our in-depth, personalized 1:1 coaching program, you will…

  • Find your inner true north and deepest sense of self,
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  • Rise up as an intentional social leader.

Discover the best roadmap to enjoy better self esteem, foster deeper connections, and take steps to start building a long lasting relationship today.

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Micayla from IA
Micayla is resident writer here at Introverted Alpha, which is known as the premier dating coaching company for introverted men; featured by Forbes, Business Insider, Cosmo, and more. Pick up your free copy of our 22-page ebook inside the blue box just below.

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