How to Know if She Likes You and Show Her You Like Her – 6 Surefire Tips!

Spotting the undeniable signs that she’s into you

how to know if she likes youIf you’re an introverted man googling “how to know if she likes you,” you’ve come to the right place!

Many introverted men find themselves second-guessing their ability to interpret a woman’s behavior and communication (both verbal and non-verbal) when related to attraction…

Especially if you’re trying to figure out if she has a crush on YOU!

You don’t want to assume incorrectly and make the moment awkward…

Although you don’t want to miss an opportunity to connect on a deeper level with her, either!

Does this sound familiar?

Many of our clients and readers feel the same way. That’s why we’re sharing our six surefire signs that she’s into you, as well as next steps you can take to show her that you like her too!


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How to know if she likes you: 6 surefire signs that a girl is into you

Here are six subtle signs that you should be looking for in order to know if a woman is interested in you:


1. She shows open body language cues.

An excellent sign to indicate that a woman is interested is if you notice that she…

  • Maintains eye contact,
  • Touches your arm,
  • Smiles a lot,
  • Leans in, and
  • “Accidentally” touches you.

These seemingly small behaviors definitely stack up in favor of a crush!


2. She’s physically close to you.

Whereas a woman who isn’t interested in you will likely create distance between the two of you (by being aloof, physically moving away, or placing an object such as her purse between you)…

A woman who likes you will do the exact opposite!

The more she likes you, gets to know you, and trusts you, the more you’ll notice the personal space between you two shrink even more. She may move to sit closer to you or lean in as she is speaking. These are both excellent signs that she may be interested in you as more than a friendly acquaintance.


3. She’s single and wants to know if you are, too.

There’s no ring, no mention of a boyfriend, and no contextual clues that indicate she already has a special someone in her life. That’s great news for you!

While some women are more direct and comfortable asking point-blank if you’re seeing anybody, others may tiptoe around the topic.

When she wants to know how you’re connected with a certain woman or asks when you last dated, what she’s really saying is, “I already have a little crush on you and want to make sure you’re available before my attraction gets any bigger.”


4. She pays attention to you and remembers details.

Perhaps your stories seem to lose others’ interest easily, or maybe sharing your plan for the day seems random and unimportant while talking with coworkers in the break room.

When a woman likes you, she will hang on every word you say.

This can make a seemingly mundane story something she sees as worth following up on.

The most boring grocery list can quickly turn into something exciting to her because she gets a peek inside the window of who you are and how you think!


5. She prioritizes you.

Her phone buzzes? She puts it on silent or tucks it in her pocket.

You’re free Friday night? So is she.

If there is a struggle to connect or you feel like you’re trying harder than she is to get together, she’s probably not that interested.

Sometimes, people genuinely do their best to fit time in together yet need to reschedule due to illness or work commitments.

Generally speaking, though, if a woman prioritizes you in her calendar and makes you feel valued and desirable when you’re together, she definitely likes you!

You can think about this topic in terms of a spectrum:

On a scale of 1 to 10, how much effort would you say she puts in to spend more time with you?

Then, on a scale of 1 to 10, how well does she stay fully present with you and seem like there’s no other place she’d rather be?

If your scores for these two questions add up to 15-20 points combined, that’s a good sign she is interested in you. If the score is below 5 points, she may not be into you.


6. She keeps the vibe playful with you.

Does she laugh at your jokes? Does she give you a bit of a hard time?

Teasing and playful banter are very effective ways to build chemistry and enjoy each other’s company.

Being playful is also a valuable way to get to know each other when you can explore what makes the other person laugh, and which topics feel a bit more sensitive.



Here are some other fun signs that she likes you!

  • She adds you on social media shortly after seeing you,
  • You find out that she asked some of your friends about you,
  • She silences other phone calls when you’re with her yet always answers yours,
  • You notice that she’s more touchy feely with you than other guys,
  • She asks for your help with tasks or decisions that she doesn’t truly need help with,
  • Her friends and family know about you, and
  • You catch her staring at you with desire.

Our best advice if you think that she may have a crush on you is to look for both quality and quantity.

Do you notice a lot of these signs showing up in your interactions? Great! That checks the quantity box.

Do you notice that the playful banter is through the roof and she’s very attentive, yet she’s not the most touchy feely? That’s okay! That checks the quality box, and maybe she isn’t a very touchy feely person to begin with.


Now you’ve discovered how to know if she likes you, how do you show you like her in return?

Woman Smiling At Man - How to Know if She Likes YouNow comes the tricky part!

You know she definitely likes you… so what should you do next? How do you get her number or ask for a date, and how can you escalate your connection from your first touch to your first kiss?


Your Next Steps

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Micayla from IA
Micayla is resident writer here at Introverted Alpha, which is known as the premier dating coaching company for introverted men; featured by Forbes, Business Insider, Cosmo, and more. Pick up your free copy of our 22-page ebook inside the blue box just below.

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