“How do I know if she likes me?” 8 Ways To Be Sure

Signs that she likes me

Have you ever felt a promising sense of budding, palpable chemistry with a woman, only to later second guess whether or not she likes you?

For example, take this quote from an IA reader (we’ll call him Justin):

“I have started to see the signals that women like me, something which I was quite blind to. Suddenly I started to see the smiles, the interest. I think they were always there, but I had totally missed them! :)”

Many introverted men we talk to like Justin either miss the signs a girl is crushing on them, or they don’t have the confidence to believe it’s really happening.

It’s understandable to feel a bit unsure when you’re trying to decipher someone’s flirtatious gestures. Naturally, it’s easier to assume she doesn’t like you and find out later that she does than the other way around.

The dilemma is that if you can’t confidently figure out whether a girl likes you, how are you going to make progress with your connection?

Well, we’ve got your back. Today we’re going to share eight ways to be sure she likes you.

By the end of this post, you will be much more comfortable with evaluating her interest level and figuring out what to do next.


Why is this so important in the first place?

If you aren’t sure where to start with answering the question, “How do I know if she likes me?”, you’ve come to the right place.

Once you know the eight signs that she likes you, you’ll need the confidence to act on that information!

A sense of confidence is the cornerstone for flirting and dating. Discovering what makes you uniquely attractive is a fundamental step to building that self-esteem to begin with!

When you know what draws women to you, you’re able to flirt and connect with confidence! That’s exactly what this free 22-page ebook helps you with.

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Now, let’s dive in and find out how to read the signs a woman is interested in you!


1. Her body language is open and inviting.

Interpersonal behavior is very multi-faceted, so here are a few examples you can watch for:

  • Extended eye contact,
  • Lots of smiling,
  • Uncrossed arms and legs, and
  • Leaning in.

There are so many wonderful ways that body language cues can reveal romantic interest and be a sign of attraction. Pay attention and keep an eye out for those subtle, flirty communications while also being careful not to read too much into the small ones!

Context is everything, so the more of these eight signs you see combined from her, the more probable it is that she’s into you!

For example, if she maintains eye contact and her face is animated and she touches your arm while you’re telling her a story, she’s showing that she’s interested in what you have to say.


2. You notice some playful brushes and purposeful proximity.

“Accidental touches” are not always accidents, and if you notice that she’s staying close to you, that isn’t one either!

Brushing your arm, lightly touching your shoulder, and letting her outer thigh graze yours at the table or movie theater are all great examples of flirtatious behavior.

In the same way, someone who’s interested in you will want to be close to you! Think of the way a delicious breakfast or cozy candle can draw us in. When we find something (or someone) that’s pleasant or interesting, it’s normal to maintain close proximity!

If a woman is staying physically close in your personal space, or being touchy feely with you, she’s showing that she feels comfortable with you and there’s a good chance she likes you!


3. She hints that she’s single and looks for signs that you are too.

Although her word choice may be subtle, her messaging will be quite clear!

For example, she may mention all the weddings she’s been part of lately followed by an “always a bridesmaid, never a bride” comment or something similar.

Another way to tiptoe around relationship status is to ask about your female friends and to refer to her guy friends as “my friend Joe.”

Some women can be more direct, though! Don’t be surprised if she asks you point-blank if you’re seeing anyone or if she lets you know plainly that she’s into you.


4. She remembers something you tell her.

Not only does she remember… she cares enough to follow up on it!

Did you mention a job you applied for or a random detail about a family member? If she brings those things up or asks about them later, it shows that she’s genuinely invested in getting to know you!

This is a great sign that she likes you.


5. She’s responsive during conversations.

This goes for both in-person conversations and texting over the phone or social media!

If your chats are generally smooth and natural, no need to worry if you come across a few awkward pauses. That’s natural for everyone! The main thing is that she truly listens to what you have to say and that she contributes with questions, empathy, and interest.

It’s also a good sign if she laughs at your jokes!


6. She makes time for you.

If she likes you, she’ll prioritize you in her schedule as much as possible.

That’s not to say that your plans together will take precedence over everything right off the bat. However, as you get to know each other more, it’s natural to want to spend more and more time together!

If she makes it a priority to spend time giving you her undivided attention, that’s a good sign she likes you.

If it feels like a constant struggle to see her or it seems like you’re trying harder than she is to get together, that sends a different message than if she genuinely does her best to fit time in together and reschedules when it doesn’t work out.


7. She teases you or gives you a bit of a hard time.

This may sound like something kids do in elementary school, yet it holds true: teasing is a fun and low-risk, high-reward way to escalate a conversation’s level of intimacy.

This type of banter can make your connection feel more personal while keeping things light-hearted. So, just remember: if she’s giving your favorite team a hard time or making some playful jabs, chances are good that she’s got a crush!

This is also a great way to experiment with humor as you get to know each other. Feel free to dish out some gentle teasing yourself as long as you ease into it and adjust intuitively based on her reactions!


8. She asks for your help with little things.

It could be anything from advice about a confrontation at work to asking for a suggestion on what TV show to watch next.

It’s not so much what she’s asking that matters as much as why she’s asking.

Seeking out your expertise, companionship, or opinion indicates that she respects you, wants to build a stronger connection with you, and is looking for more things to have in common with you.

Needless to say, if the opportunity arises to help her out (no matter how small), take it!


Final thoughts on figuring out if she likes you

Now that you know what to do when you’re wondering, “How do I know if she likes me?” you can make your next move with clarity and confidence!

Today, we went over eight ways to detect if a woman likes you. If you’re looking for more advice about reading women, check out these helpful articles:

Most of all, remember that the eight ways to detect her crush work best in context with each other. If she only exhibits one of those, she may just be friendly. However, if you can check off a handful of those tendencies, she probably likes you!


Your Next Steps

man and woman laughing - how do I know if she likes meBe sure to download our free ebook, “Why PUA Doesn’t Work for Introverts & What Works Instead” and complete the exercise inside to discover what makes you attractive and build your confidence!

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This powerful, self-paced program allows you to absorb and integrate the material in your own timing and become more confident by the moment. Learn more here!

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