Understanding the psychology of women could revolutionize your dating success
Although the psychology of women is a complex topic, understanding this topic can be super beneficial for introverted men navigating the dating world!
Imagine going into an interview for a job you really wanted. Before that interview, you would make sure you understood the company, what your role would be, and you might even look up the people who will be interviewing you.
You’ll gather what you know, examples of your work, and take the steps you need to feel prepared for the interview.
And yet… compared to preparing for a job interview, when you go on a date, you feel like you’re walking in blind.
Little to no prep, no idea what to expect, and still hoping everything will work out.
We don’t even need to tell you that this approach doesn’t work … you’re here because you already know that!
So today, we’re going to help you do your homework! We’ll help you better understand the psychology of women, so that you can walk into your first date prepared, poised, calm, and enthusiastic.
By the end of this post, you will be much more confident with your knowledge of what women want and need from you on a psychological level.
Why does the psychology of women matter in the first place?
When you can better understand women, then you get to relate to them more easily… which absolutely translates into better dating results.
Now, let’s dive into understanding the psychology of women!
1. Avoid assumptions
Do you like to be included in sweeping generalizations about men? As an introverted man, we already know you’re shaking your head “no!”
The same is true for women.
Women are individuals with unique personalities and experiences. Avoid making assumptions or generalizations based on gender.
She doesn’t want to feel like one woman out of 3,904,727,342 other females on the planet.
She wants to feel like the only girl in the world when she’s with you (or even talking to you online).
And the best way to make her feel special?
Ask her thoughtful questions, wait for her to answer, never answer for her or assume you know how she feels or what she thinks.
Women want to be deeply understood, not boxed in.
2. Communication is key
When she’s speaking, give her your full, undivided attention.
When you listen actively and express your own thoughts and feelings clearly, remember it’s not about agreeing on everything.
You can respectfully disagree about certain topics without losing your respect for each other!
Women want to feel connected to you through great conversations.
3. Boundaries were built to be respected
Women will almost always let you know if you’re approaching or crossing the line.
Instead of taking things to the point where she feels she has to say something, you should pay extra attention to nonverbal cues and always ask for consent!
Check out our post about flirting with women for a list of verbal and nonverbal cues to look for!
Women want to be respected without having to explain themselves.
4. Empathy is everything
Emotional intelligence is a game-changer for successful dating.
Cultivating empathy and learning how to see her experiences from her perspective is essential for a positive dating experience, friendship, marriage… the possibilities are endless!
Do your best to visualize what she tells you. Imagine if you were her, feeling what she feels, going through what she goes through.
When you respond, she will see that you are coming from a place of deep understanding and care.
Women want to feel your warm compassion and care, not your judgment, criticism, or suggestions.
5. External variables weigh on her
What’s her cultural background? What kind of messaging does her family send her about getting married and having kids?
Beyond the social pressure she has to deal with, women who want to have kids and grow a family someday also cope with a “ticking clock” looming over them.
The older she is, this only adds the pressure she feels to find the right person and get started.
Women want to be free to embrace their journey as it unfolds.
Conclusion on the psychology of women
You want to be cared for. You want to be respected. You want to be listened to. You want to be invested in. You want to feel special and valued.
Remember that the next time you’re wondering how she feels, and how she wants to feel :)
Your Next Steps
Here’s what to do next to make sure your dating and leadership skills keep improving:
- For more advice on this topic, here’s a link to our vast archive of blogs about meeting and approaching women!
- Download our free ebook, “Why PUA Doesn’t Work for Introverts & What Works Instead” to build these dating skills on a foundation of confidence!
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Becoming more empathetic, authentic, humble, and confident doesn’t mean changing who you are. Developing your own unique vibe simply means becoming the best and truest version of yourself and expecting the same to be true of your partner.
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