Flirting By Touching: 3 Simple Tips
If you are unsure about how to touch a woman when flirting, you certainly aren’t alone. There are many great ways to flirt with women, and touch is one that can cause some pause among introverts. Many introverted men wonder if they will accidentally overstep or make the wrong move if they touch a girl flirtatiously.
One Introverted Alpha reader (who we’ll call Aaron) shared,
“I used to have a ton of first dates that were missing chemistry, so we wouldn’t want a second date. Now I’m leaving the first date with clear plans and a desire for a second (often discussing ideas for the third date). Implementing physical touch made the difference!”
Have you ever felt like Aaron, hoping for better chemistry on your first dates? If so, like it was for him, learning how to touch a woman when flirting may be the exact thing you’ve been missing.
Although incorporating touch may feel like unfamiliar territory, we’re here to help. That’s exactly what we’re about to address today.
And this doesn’t mean you have to become a touchy feely person, if that isn’t natural to you.
By the end of this post, you will know how to touch a woman when flirting while honoring her boundaries and staying true to yourself!
How does a romantic touch contribute to dating success?
Once you learn how to touch a woman with respect and desire, you can experience more tangible, undeniable chemistry between the two of you!
Now, let’s dive in!
First, approach each opportunity as a learning experience.
When you’re enjoying yourself on a date and want to flirtatiously touch the woman you’re with, the very first thing you need to do is fortify your mindset.
No matter how the situation plays out, it’s important to remember that the experience isn’t a be-all-end-all statement about who you are. It’s simply information.
By entering the situation with a curious, open-minded attitude, you’ll be surprised how much you can learn and grow from it!
Dr. Carol Dweck, a psychologist and researcher, wrote a book called Mindset about this concept. It’s all about the psychology of success, and it absolutely applies to dating!
When you’re navigating a new relationship or friendship of any kind, you naturally discuss general topics early on. As trust is built, you can venture into more private territory.
The same is true if you’re wondering how to touch a woman when flirting!
Just like you wouldn’t deep-dive into a conversation about a private family conflict with someone you’ve just met, you also wouldn’t jump straight into giving the woman you’re with a romantic backrub or start holding hands with her five minutes after meeting for the first time!
If touch progresses too quickly, it can feel unexpected and jarring, which we don’t want! That’s why we recommend starting with small gestures like making eye contact and lighting touching her arm. From there, you can valuate her response (more on that next!) and determine what to do next based on those indicators.
This progression builds attraction naturally!
Respond respectfully to her nonverbal cues.
When you start to incorporate touch in your dating life, the situation can unfold in one of three ways with any given woman:
- She accepts and reciprocates your flirtatious contact.
- Your touch goes unnoticed, although she seems to be enjoying herself in your presence.
- She flinches away from your touch or mentions you’re “going too fast.”
No matter how she reacts, listening and immediately responding to her nonverbal message will make her feel safe and respected.
Many introverted men worry about coming off as pushy or accidentally overstepping when it comes to physical boundaries. As long as you start small and honor her reaction, you can rest assured that you’ll be leaving women better than you found them because of the respect you gave them!
Conclusion on how to touch a woman when flirting
Let’s review what we went over today:
- Each situation is a valuable learning opportunity.
- Starting small will help you both feel safe and comfortable.
- Noticing and respecting her response will keep you from overstepping.
Now, if you’re looking for more advice about how to touch a woman when flirting, check out this article, Importance Of Touch In Attraction, Flirting, And Dating.
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