How To Tell If Someone Is Flirting With You

31 Signs That She’s Flirting With You

If you’ve ever wondered how to tell if someone is flirting with you, you’re certainly not alone. It can sometimes feel a bit tricky to accurately gauge whether or not a woman is interested in you romantically.

Introverted men typically face three internal challenges when it comes to reading the signs of flirting. Those include

  • Deciphering how not to create awkwardness by making a wrong assumption,
  • Making sure she doesn’t feel ignored if she is flirting and you like her too, and
  • Figuring out your next move based on your conclusion.

Modern flirting and dating have become deeply nuanced, and it can be challenging to know where to start. Happily, you’ve come to the right place!

Today, we’ll share 31 flirting signs that a woman sends so that you know what to look for. We’ll also let you in on some important contextual questions to ask yourself and tips for what to do next.


Why is this so important in the first place?

At the core, accurately reading someone’s flirting signs requires confidence.

If you doubt that someone could possibly be flirting with YOU, then interpreting her flirting signs can understandably get unnecessarily complicated.

Happily, there’s a clearer way to see those behaviors clearly for what they are: a genuine interest in you!

This free 22-page ebook lays out exactly how to find out what’s attractive about you so that you can confidently read and act on the flirting signs she’s showing you.

Reading flirting signs always starts with knowing why women want to flirt with you in the first place!

Download the ebook here and complete the exercise on page 8 after you read this post.

Now, let’s dive in!


How to tell if someone is flirting with you

Before zeroing in on specific behaviors, here are two important, big-picture questions to ask:

  1. Do her flirtatious gestures seem intentional?
  2. Are they being repeated frequently?

A kind woman’s warm, friendly behavior may sometimes be incorrectly interpreted as flirting. However, if you notice these signs happening regularly and purposefully, you can trust your judgment that she’s into you!

Here are 31 signs that someone is flirting with you. She…

  1. Creates inviting opportunities for you to make the first move.
  2. Volunteers personal information about herself that she wants you to know.
  3. Gravitates toward you in social settings.
  4. Catches your eye while your surroundings seem to fade into the background.
  5. Starts meaningful conversations with you.
  6. Moves objects that are between you out of the way.
  7. Does something kind for you without you asking her to.
  8. Laughs very readily around you.
  9. Points out things you have in common.
  10. Looks for you when she isn’t right by you.
  11. Pulls her chair closer to yours.
  12. Seems extra joyful, enthusiastic, or positive when you’re around.
  13. Touches you gently.
  14. Speaks more quickly than usual or in a higher pitch.
  15. Acts relaxed and at ease around you.
  16. Displays pleasant facial expressions.
  17. Changes her schedule to match yours better.
  18. Asks leading questions to find out if you have a girlfriend.
  19. Compliments your physical features or style.
  20. Suggests seeing each other again.
  21. Bites her lip or twirls her hair.
  22. Emphasizes your shared interests, hobbies, or pastimes.
  23. Is content to keep talking to you long beyond the expected or scheduled time.
  24. Listens to you intently and asks follow-up questions.
  25. Mirrors your body language subconsciously.
  26. Indicates subtly that she is single.
  27. Teases you lightheartedly.
  28. Goes in for a hug when you’re about to part ways.
  29. Warms to your touch, seeming to melt into it or absorb it.
  30. Asks for or offers a phone number to make future plans.
  31. Makes you feel so comfortable that you find yourself opening up unexpectedly.

Again, context is important! Rather than reading too deeply into any one of these behaviors, consider the list as a whole when you’re wondering how to tell if someone is flirting with you.

How many of these signs does she display, and how often?


Conclusion on how to tell if someone is flirting with you

Woman Smiling - How To Tell If Someone Is Flirting With YouNow that you know how to read the signs, you’ll be able to choose your next move with clarity!

Your Next Steps

To make sure your dating and leadership skills keep improving, here’s what to do:

  1. Check out a wealth of articles about flirting from Introverted Alpha.
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Micayla is resident writer here at Introverted Alpha, which is known as the premier dating coaching company for introverted men; featured by Forbes, Business Insider, Cosmo, and more. Pick up your free copy of our 22-page ebook inside the blue box just below.

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