Struggling with how to date as an introvert? These 7 tips are for you!
Wondering how to date as an introvert? If you’ve scoured the internet and come up short, that’s because most dating advice isn’t designed for you…
It’s designed for extroverts.
So all of that “fake it till you make it” advice and recommended pickup lines leave you feeling inauthentic and forced.
Not being genuine isn’t your style, because you bring more authenticity and depth to your dating process than most men.
Although figuring out how to date as an introvert can feel a bit intimidating and overwhelming without the proper guidance, today we’re going to share 7 great strategies and approaches that can help make dating feel more natural and enjoyable for you!
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While preparation and planning can do wonders for you if you’re figuring out how to date as an introvert, the truth is that there will still be moments that arise that you could never plan for.
Now, let’s dive in!
1. Be picky about your date environment
When you’re feeling low on energy, plan activities you enjoy that don’t involve too much social interaction.
For example, you could go for a walk, have a picnic, or watch a movie together.
Finding an introvert-friendly activity that you’ll both enjoy can look like…
- Signing up up for a cooking class,
- Attending a trivia night,
- Watching a movie screening,
- Going for a walk,
- Enjoying a picnic at the park, or
- Perusing a book store for your next read.
Also, consider the amount of time you spend together! When you’re feeling a little depleted or overwhelmed, keeping the date on the shorter side can help you manage your need for solitude while still allowing you to spend time with your date.
2. Stay in when you need to
Don’t feel obligated to go out every night! Staying in sometimes is totally okay, especially if you’re feeling low on energy.
Check in with yourself and see if you’d prefer to be completely alone to recharge your batteries or if you might enjoy hosting a date at your place, even if it’s simply to eat dessert, play a game, or watch a movie!
While at-home dates can sometimes feel a little too intimate for a brand new relationship or a first date, they can be the perfect option once that connection becomes a bit more established and some trust has been built between the two of you.
A lowkey, more private evening can both protect your energy as an introvert AND escalate the relationship toward deeper territory!
3. Take things slow and steady
Despite any external pressure you may be feeling, whether that’s from a fast-paced culture or expectations from family and/or friends, there is truly no need to jump into a serious relationship right away.
Take your time getting to know the person before you decide to take your interactions further!
Even as you consider escalating the relationship from the first touch to the first kiss, you’ll want to follow a natural, patient progression instead of trying to incorporate intimacy too early.
4. Embrace your introverted qualities
As an introvert, you know that you don’t have to be the life of the party or the center of attention to have a good time.
Let your introversion work to your advantage and focus on having meaningful conversations with the people you meet!
When you enjoy and honor your introversion instead of wishing you were more extroverted, you’ll be surprised how much more people enjoy being around you as well!
5. Ask for help
Don’t be afraid to ask for help! If you’re feeling stuck or overwhelmed, reaching out to a trusted friend or family member for advice or moral support can be just what you need to keep moving forward.
If you feel like the dating advice from your personal network has taken you as far as you can go, this is the perfect time to look for help outside of that!
Here are 3 ways we can help you here at Introverted Alpha:
- Downloaded our free ebook. Be sure to complete the helpful exercise on page 8!
- Browse through our blog posts. Pick a category you’re curious about and take a deeper dive into that topic!
- Take our quiz to find out which of our programs would be best for you! We’ll be in touch with our personalized recommendation, and we can even hop on the phone for a quick phone call to discuss the various options.
Whether you want a self-paced approach on your own terms or you’d prefer a more involved dating coach with accountability and support, we’re excited to help you find the best path forward for you as an introverted man!
6. Focus conversation on interesting topics
The fun truth about this tip is that “interesting” means something completely different to everyone!
When you find a way to focus on the topics that interest you both, you’ll find that talking about what you truly care about feels more easy and natural.
When you do your best to…
- Ask great questions,
- Share personal stories, and
- Listen intently…
… this keeps the conversations flowing smoothly and allows both people to contribute!
7. Find the resources you need to keep growing
Understand and take advantage of the resources that are available to you, such as…
- Online dating and dating apps,
- Social media,
- Dating coaches and courses, and
- Ebooks designed for introverts just like you
Conclusion on how to date as an introvert
Now that you have 7 of our best strategies up your sleeve, figuring out how to date as an introvert truly becomes a matter of owning and honoring your unique energy and needs, and nurturing a connection with someone who truly understands and appreciates you.
Your Next Steps
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