Finding the right dating expert for you
From San Francisco to New York and everywhere in between, many introverted men like you seek dating advice from relationship and dating experts to help them navigate the modern dating world and find love long term.
As it is, there’s a lot of unhelpful advice about dating and relationships that’s become so popular it’s cliche! (Ever heard of “fake it till you make it”?)
It’s understandable to feel a bit lost or unsure when you want to discern who you can trust to help you with your love life.
That’s why we’re going to cover the red flags and green lights to look for when it comes to dating experts.
Why evaluating dating “experts” matters
When you know what to look for, then you can find a dating coach you would trust to help you achieve the results you want!
Experts and coaches have a huge impact on people’s lives. That’s why it’s so important that you are careful as you determine who to listen to! Ultimately, any expert who tells you to be anyone other than yourself is not what you want. That’s why we created this free 22-page ebook: to help you find what makes you attractive… what makes you you! Download it here so you can discover more about yourself after you finish this post.
Now, let’s dive in!
What doesn’t work
It’s best to steer clear of dating experts who…
- Give advice to the masses rather than men like you specifically. What works for everyone won’t necessarily work for you, and as a deeply nuanced person, you need someone who genuinely understands people like you!
- Tell you to be someone you’re not rather than helping you grow into your best self. There is a clear divide between growing personally and adopting a false persona, although it can be difficult to pick up on that sometimes subtle messaging. If it feels like you’re being told to go against your character and values, run!
- Care only about the sale (whether selling books or life coaching) without any tie to you personally. The best coach for you is the one who makes time to develop a personal relationship with you. This could look many ways (for example, through regular emailing or a monthly call. The main thing is that they want to connect with you 1-on-1 and make the time to do so.
- Host radio shows steeped in shallow gossip and self-centered advice. Always ask yourself, “Who is this lifting up? Who does this honor?” If the honest answer is “nobody,” then that’s likely not somewhere that wants to help you become a better person.
Use your discernment! Anything that seems questionable is not designed for wonderful, thoughtful men like yourself.
What does work
You want to look for dating experts who…
- Prioritize personal growth,
- Have years of experience helping people like you improve their dating lives,
- Are in touch with real life and the challenges of modern dating,
- Want a loving relationship for you as badly as you want it for yourself,
- Make you feel comfortable sharing the details of your dating experiences, and
- Can help you make the most of various tools, like dating apps.
Above all, look for a balance between someone who will offer you empathy and challenge you to grow!
Conclusion on how to find the best dating expert for you
Now that you know which red flags to watch out for and the traits of an excellent dating expert, you can make an informed decision before accepting unhelpful advice that isn’t geared specifically toward introverted men!
Your Next Steps
It’s time to take action to make sure your dating skills keep improving. Here’s what to do next!
- For more advice on finding the right dating expert, read this article: Online Dating Coach Or Matchmaker: Which Is Better For You?.
- Download our free ebook, “Why PUA Doesn’t Work for Introverts & What Works Instead” to build your dating skills on a foundation of confidence!
- For personalized support in building authentic confidence, consider our Launch Your Dating Life program.
Do you want to…
- Be and feel sexually attractive,
- Meet and connect with great women, and
- Fill your dating funnel with quality dates?
Launch Your Dating Life is our 12-week high-touch, comprehensive program that will help you do all of the above, all while feeling more like yourself than ever! Learn more here.
