Creepy Eye Contact: What It Is & How To Not Do It!

Avoiding Creepy Eye Contact

Has this ever happened to you?

You’re pleasantly surprised when a lovely woman catches your eye. You observe her out of curiosity, hoping she’ll notice you too. Suddenly, though, she seems uncomfortable and promptly leaves the area.

If you’ve ever experienced something similar, it may have been an unintentional case of creepy eye contact. While this can feel awkward, many other men can relate.

Today, we’re sharing the two types of creepy eye contact and tips that will help you avoid it!


Eye contact and dating

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The 2 types of creepy eye contact

Eye contact is a powerful tool for connection when it’s used properly. It helps establish trust, familiarity, and intrigue.

Many introverted men find that they are challenged by one or both of these types of creepy eye contact:

1. Avoidant Eye Contact

Do you struggle to meet a woman’s gaze or find yourself staring at a random object during conversation? If so, your eye contact may come off as avoidant.

While well-intentioned, this can seem shifty or inauthentic. In some cases, avoidant eye contact can even appear dishonest or untrustworthy.

Relaxed eye contact, on the other hand, makes you seem approachable, likable, and open. This makes women feel more willing to connect with you because they don’t sense a reason not to trust you!

2. Intense Eye Contact

On the other end of the spectrum, intense eye contact can feel invasive and uncomfortable.

Nobody enjoys the feeling of being under a microscope. If eye contact becomes too intense, it can feel threatening to a woman.

Happily, toning it down a bit can help women feel safe and comfortable, which can lead to a deeper connection!

Now that you know how to recognize creepy eye contact, let’s explore strategies to help you avoid it.


Tips for great eye contact

Did you know that the average preference for eye contact duration is 3.3 seconds?

While you don’t want to seem too avoidant or intense, nobody expects you to count to 3.3 seconds every time you lock eyes with someone, either.

It’s also worth noting that some cultural and religious norms may have different expectations when it comes to eye contact.

With that being said, here are a handful of helpful tips:

  • Hold her gaze long enough to register the color of her eyes (or something else about her if she is farther away).
  • Break eye contact respectfully if she seems uncomfortable (for example, if she has a startled or unpleasant facial expression, or if she starts to move away from you).
  • Glance periodically from one eye to the other and down to her mouth to show that you’re focused without seeming too intense.
  • Think about observing her casually instead of studying her if you tend to have intense eye contact.
  • Match the intensity of your eye contact to the level of intimacy of the conversation.


Conclusion on creepy eye contact

Man in Hoodie Looking - Creepy Eye ContactEye contact is one of many “Goldilocks” factors when it comes to flirting and creating a connection. The intensity that accompanies too much eye contact can feel uncomfortable, while too little eye contact can seem shifty.

Happily, getting it just right is only a matter of practicing the handy tips we shared today!

Now that you know how to avoid creepy eye contact, you can enjoy connecting with women in a comfortable, confident way.

For more helpful tips on eye contact, check out this article: Eye Contact If Flirting: Tips & Techniques For Shy Men.

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Micayla from IA
Micayla from IA
Micayla is resident writer here at Introverted Alpha, which is known as the premier dating coaching company for introverted men; featured by Forbes, Business Insider, Cosmo, and more. Pick up your free copy of our 22-page ebook inside the blue box just below.

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