Tackle the skill of dating with confidence and ease,
even if you’re introverted by nature.

I especially like how you’re a strong alternative to short term, shallow PUA tactics.


Until recently I wasn’t sure what made me worth dating. Now I remind myself in the mirror every morning, and I have someone to remind me with her words and actions at night. ;)


I definitely consider you on par with Ramit Sethi / Tim Ferriss. Your work comes off as honest and sincere.


Does this sound like you?

Pick-up doesn’t work
well for you.

You could never accept that PUA’s focus is on “getting laid” instead of real connection. Plus, it assumes a loud, brash disposition that doesn’t suit you.

Your love life is the one missing piece.

Though you’ve achieved a lot, something feels missing. You’re ready to have someone to wake up next to, cuddle with, and talk about your days together.

You want to be your best self.

You want to get better with women to improve your love life and to self-actualize. More than anything, you’d love to feel genuine confidence.

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Get Started with Dating Advice for Introverted Men

At Introverted Alpha, we have been providing smart dating advice for introverted men since Summer 2014. Over the years, we have refined and developed our dating advice for introverted men as well as our dating coaching program:

Press, Features, and Contributions:

Introverted Alpha Features - Dating Advice for Introverted Men

Go to our most popular coverage: our Business Insider profile piece, our signature guest post on why introverted men are so damn attractive, and our dating advice for introverted men in the Knowledge for Men podcast.

Our Founder, Sarah Jones

From Our Clients

“I can’t remember ever being so comfortable in my own skin than I have since starting the IA program. Having an understanding of my values and factors, building habits and practices around that have really helped me feel more confident and grounded.”


“I had an AMAZING date with the woman I have been talking to full of firsts for me. I held her hands for a long time, did lots of other light touch, then made out for about 30 minutes in her car (then moved to my car because her back seat was cramped… it was fun though trying to find proper makeout positions in tight spaces lol!)”


“I am now with a wonderful woman — better than I could’ve imagined. Literally, my daydreams, checklists, etc never would’ve hit upon the combination of things that make her so great and make us a great fit. I call her my “impossible girl”, a Dr. Who reference she probably doesn’t know about and I haven’t felt a need to explain ;)”


“The other night, I went to an event, and people were coming up to me and saying, ‘I’ve heard about you!’ It felt pretty great — especially because that had never happened to me before. Usually, I’m quiet in the corner not talking to anyone. It felt like a whole new world opened up for me, a whole new way of being that wasn’t available to me before.”


“Dating is so chill now, that I’m not in a hurry to find a relationship. I’m exploring. It’s just another fun part of my life, and if it gets overwhelming (yes overwhelming), I stop doing it until it’s fun again. I don’t even have time to do all the first dates that I’ve agreed to — I’m reserving second dates for really special girls. Dating is no longer something that worries me, and I don’t have thoughts that I’ll settle.”


“I’m having a great time. I kind of can’t believe this is all happening with Jessica — I feel like I hit a home run during my first at bat. It’s just great, and it’s exciting to see where it will go.”


Our Mission


At Introverted Alpha, we see dating as an enjoyable means to self-actualization.

Becoming the kind of man who attracts women naturally is satisfying. Our clients tell us it’s the best part of their work with us. Yes, the dates are great and the women they welcome into their lives are beautiful and inspiring.

Yet, the best part is the very men they become in the process: strong, self-respecting, aware, loving, quietly charismatic.

This deep joy is a core focus of all our dating advice for introverted men. We are on a mission to make this the norm. No pickup lines, no insincere forced interactions; just easy natural connections that feel really good for everyone involved.