Online Dating Photo Tips for Guys Who Aren’t Photogenic

Optimizing your pictures for dating apps

Have you ever felt like your pictures on dating sites and apps aren’t helping you get the results you’re hoping for? That may be for a number of reasons.

For example, take this quote from an IA reader who we’ll call Micah:

“I am finding more success via dating apps and reached out to a recent match. I’m hopeful she’ll respond. In the meantime, I’ll take a critical eye to my online dating profiles. Seeing them now through the IA lens, they admittedly need a lot of work!”

Whether your pictures aren’t quite capturing your true personality, you feel that the quantity or quality of your photos is a bit off, or you just aren’t sure which ones to use and why, the great news is that we’re here to help you!

When it comes to online dating photo tips for guys, remember that your pictures need to check these three boxes! They should…

  • Tell a story,
  • Be authentic, and
  • Create appeal.

Keep reading to find out how to select the right photos for your dating profile!


Why is this so important in the first place?

When you use photos that let your best qualities shine, you increase the likelihood of connecting with a great match online.

Before we go further…

You first need to find out what is attractive about you.

Reason being, it takes a healthy amount of confidence to post pictures of yourself on a dating app, initiate a conversation with someone you match with, and be yourself on the first date!

That’s exactly what this free 22-page ebook helps you with!

Download it here so you can complete the exercises after you finish this post.

Now, let’s dive in!


Tell A Story.

You may be wondering, “How am I supposed to tell a story with a picture?”

That old adage is right: a picture is worth a thousand words. If you can’t tell a story verbally right off the bat, which is always the case on a dating app, it’s important to understand the story you can tell visually through each picture you share!

For example, posting a picture of you playing with your dog at the park provides a lot of information. It can be assumed that you spend a good amount of time outside, enjoy the companionship of pets, and remain relatively active.

Based on your specific activity or the type of dog you have, it gives someone checking out your profile several options for starting a conversation!

Alternatively, you could post a picture of yourself in your line of work, with someone you care about like your grandmother, or doing something you love such as making your own pasta.

Using your photos to tell a story helps you…

  • Stand out among the crowd,
  • Be memorable even after women close the app, and
  • Create cohesive messaging about who you are.

These are all valuable things that will help your pictures get the attention of wonderful women, even if you don’t feel like you’re very photogenic!


Be Authentic.

While there may be photos of you that look pretty good, they may not truly capture who you are as a person. For example, if you used to drink but don’t anymore, a non-candid picture of you holding a beer won’t be authentic.

Authenticity matters from the get-go because it’s the first step in building trust.

So, if you use photos that genuinely represent your character, interests, and personality, then when you arrange and show up for that first date, the woman you’re with will feel comfortable knowing that the impression you gave off online matches your in-person persona.


Create Appeal.

You can generate interest in several ways:

  1. Use the maximum number of photos for a well-rounded impression.
  2. Upload only high-quality images that won’t leave women squinting or confused.
  3. Remember that a smile can go a long way.

When in doubt, keep it simple!

If you’re concerned that you don’t have any pictures of yourself that quite fit the bill, we have great news for you. In this smartphone era, you don’t have to hire a photographer to take professional headshots. You can simply ask a friend or family member to snap a few pics of you in your element. Alternatively, you can set up the automatic timer on your phone’s camera to take some on your own!


Conclusion on online dating photo tips for guys

Now that you have a few online dating photo tips for guys up your sleeve, you’ll be able to choose the best possible pictures to complete your profile!

Let’s review what we went over today:

  • Incorporate photos that tell a story,
  • Choose pictures that authentically capture who you are, and
  • Pick images that will create interest.


Your next steps for dating success

man taking a selfie - online dating photo tips for guysIf you’re looking for more advice about improving your dating profile, check out this article: How To Get Matches On Hinge: Checklist Of 7 Quick Fixes.

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Through this program, you’ll discover how to…

  • be and feel sexually attractive,
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Micayla is resident writer here at Introverted Alpha, which is known as the premier dating coaching company for introverted men; featured by Forbes, Business Insider, Cosmo, and more. Pick up your free copy of our 22-page ebook inside the blue box just below.

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