Do women care how experienced you are with dating?
Wondering if women really care about your dating experience? Well, that’s what we’re going to cover today!
So imagine that you’ve started chatting with a woman. You really feel like the two of you are starting to click. Great! But suddenly you’re anxious:
“What if she can tell how little dating experience I have? Is she clued into the fact that I literally have no idea what I’m doing?”
You might not believe it, inexperienced or not, everyone can feel this way on dates. Anxiety over making the wrong moves and coming across as inexperienced or unnatural is completely normal, especially for guys who are new at dating.
Thankfully, having this anxiety doesn’t mean you’re actually making the mistakes you’re worried about. Either it’s all in your head or it’s about learnable skills, both of which you can overcome!
But if you find yourself second-guessing everything you do and dreading the topic of dating history coming up (since you’ll be coming up blank at this point), you’re not alone.
So how will you ever get past your fear of looking like you have no idea what you’re doing? How can you go from inexperienced to benevolent badass as an introverted man, without resorting to the “Just do it, man!” approach?
That’s what we’re going to solve in this post.
Specifically, we’ll cover…
- Discerning the type of women who will care about your previous dating experience versus those who won’t,
- Overcoming your lack of experience in a natural way, and
- Leading things well with the right kind of woman for you.
First, let’s zoom out for a moment to make the most of this post:
What’s the foundation for dating experience in the first place?
When you can rely on your past experience as a guideline for how to act in dating situations, it takes away your fear of the unknown.
You’ve been here before, so you know you can handle it!
But what happens when you don’t have the experience to rely on yet?
Can you still learn to project an image of confidence? More fundamentally and awesomely than that, can you learn to actually feel confident that you do know what you’re doing?
You absolutely can.
Reason being, you can gain all the dating experience in the world, but if it’s not on a foundation of knowing how and why you are uniquely attractive, it will fall flat.
But we can fix that! So here’s your ebook on building your confidence as an introverted man.
Once you’ve downloaded that ebook, read on to learn how to avoid those agonizing moments of wondering whether your date can tell you’ve never kissed someone before, never made it past the first few dates, or any other scenario that has you lying awake at night.
Now, let’s dive in!
First, let’s figure out how to spot the women who do care about your experience level.
The women who put a lot of stake in you having a robust dating history might not be the best partners in a long-term relationship.
How can you tell if you’re on a date with a woman who cares more about your dating experience than she does you yourself?
Pay attention to how she treats you:
If your date is overly concerned that you don’t have the knowledge to please her (from “perfecting” your skills with other women), she isn’t thinking about you as a person. She’s thinking about the benefits she can receive from you.
She might be after a short-term sexual connection rather than a long-term, committed relationship with a true emotional bond.
If she doesn’t know your modest (or nonexistent) dating history and it hasn’t come up in conversation yet, there’s another red flag you can keep watch for:
If she’s rude and demanding to the waiter, that’s a sure sign she is more focused on her own comfort or pride than on genuine connections with you or others.
Focus on the women who want something real.
Genuine, loving women who just want to develop a real connection with you are not going to be comparing notches on a bedpost. They won’t mind if you’ve had ten partners in your past or zero.
Sure, experience helps you feel more fluent and at ease in dating, but chemistry is the factor that elevates things to the next level of connection.
So where do you find these women who are more focused on chemistry and genuine connection with you?
Online dating is a great place to start. Apps like Hinge, OKCupid, Tinder, and Bumble are all great avenues for online dating.
Reason being, (a) you can start getting your feet wet with dates before learning how to approach someone in person, and (b) with online dating, chances are fairly low that your first few dates will be with your ideal match.
As such, the risk of “messing up” a perfect chance is extremely low. You can boost your confidence just by meeting and talking to women in a low-stakes environment.
The right woman won’t care whether or not you haven’t had a serious relationship before. (Yes, even if you’re at the age where you “should have” long ago… everyone’s story is unique, and a genuine woman understands and respects that!)
If the two of you have a great connection and you want the same things out of a relationship, your lack of dating experience won’t matter.
Pay attention to the signals and potential red flags your date is giving you. You’ll be much better able to pick the right partner for a lasting, deeper connection, even without much if any dating experience.
And if you do find a great match…
All women like to be wooed. And you can do this effectively with enough clear direction and support, even if you don’t have experience.
The key is to remember what really matters:
- Strength of character.
These qualities mean you tackle what you don’t know and embrace the opportunity to learn and grow.
These are the things that will stand out to women, showing them that you are a great catch.
At that point, you’re not letting your fear hold you back. Instead, you are determined to learn how to be a great partner.
The connection that comes from attraction and the spirit you display as you move forward do a lot to make up for a lack of dating experience.
Instead of worrying about coming across as inexperienced, you can take action on (a) developing your awareness of what’s attractive about you and (b) building core dating skills to “shortcut” experience! More below…
Conclusion on how to overcome a lack of dating experience.
Now that you know more about how women really feel when it comes to dating experience or lack thereof, you’ll be able to approach dating with more confidence and freedom.
Let’s review what we went over today:
- Building a sense of confidence that trumps past dating experience or lack thereof.
- Spotting the type of woman who really does care about experience.
- Finding and choosing the women who want a true connection..
- Moving forward with confidence once you are on a date with a great woman.
To develop your dating experience, and more importantly, your character and inner benevolent badass nature, be sure to download our free ebook, “Why PUA Doesn’t Work for Introverts & What Works Instead.”
Also, consider letting us help build your dating experience in a personalized, customized way through our Launch Your Dating Life program. By talking with us in a 1:1 phone call (apply here), we can see if the program is right for you!