Bringing out your best as an introvert
INTJ confidence is easy to spot in introverts who know how to showcase their best characteristics.
However, before you can show your best qualities, you have to know your best qualities.
A lovely quote from Marvel movie Shang-Chi captures this same idea:
“Look into your heart, the light and the dark. To know yourself, you must face them both.”
Today, we are going to share three chronological ways to bring out your best:
- Know who you are (your strengths, weaknesses, and preferences),
- Grow into the best version of you (by investing time and effort in the process), and
- Show your best qualities (this is effortless after the first two steps!)
We’ll focus mostly on the knowing and growing parts of building confidence. After that, letting your best qualities shine is simply a matter of showing up authentically.
If building confidence feels easier said than done, consider this quote from one of our Introverted Alpha clients (let’s call him Isaiah) whose life was changed by enrolling in one of our programs:
“I have a healthy appreciation for my qualities, a solid understanding of how to approach women in a genuine and confident manner, and I’m going out and meeting new people more consistently.”
If you’ve ever felt discouraged by popular advice that says you have to pretend to be someone you aren’t to become confident, take heart and keep reading. We’ll help you move toward the same inspiring INTJ confidence that Isaiah achieved, all while remaining true to yourself.
By understanding your INTJ strengths and growth opportunities through this post, you’ll be prepared to start growing your INTJ confidence!
Why does confidence matter in the first place?
Showcasing your best qualities should be a genuine display of who you are, not a performance of who you wish you were.
True confidence is within reach when you follow a proven, effective plan made by those who resonate with how your beautiful, analytical mind works.
That’s why we created this free 22-page ebook (with a super helpful exercise page 8!): to show you how embracing what makes you you is the key to unlocking the confidence you’ve always dreamed of.
Download it here and dive in after you finish reading this post!
Now, let’s discover the strengths and growth opportunities for INTJ men.
INTJ Strengths
Today we’ll be referencing 16personalities.com (where you can find a free personality test and type descriptions based on your Myers-Briggs result). The INTJ acronym stands for Introverted, iNtuition, Thinking, and Judging.
INTJs have been termed by 16personalities.com as “The Architects,” and rightly so! As an INTJ man, here are some of the wonderful qualities you already effortlessly possess:
You’re often described as rational.
This trait allows you to see challenges as opportunities to put your thoughtfulness to use. You often come up with inventive solutions to problems, no matter how big or small.
You stay informed.
Forming evidence-based opinions is your bread and butter. That’s why you value thorough research and analysis over hunches and assumptions.
You like your independence.
Do you ever feel like conformity is a shortcut to mediocrity? Instead, you lean on your creativity and internal motivation to productively move your goals forward while respectfully resisting any rules that could potentially hinder your success.
You’re quite determined.
With a clear definition of what success means to you, it’s only a matter of time before you transform your vision into reality. When you know what you want, nothing will get in the way of you working towards your goals and aspirations. This quality is incredibly attractive to ambitious women!
You’ve held onto your childlike curiosity.
Your openness to new ideas and thirst for knowledge means you’re humble enough to graciously change your opinions when new information proves you wrong.
You are very versatile.
You love diving headfirst into all sorts of challenges, which can help you succeed in a variety of endeavors.
Action Step: Journal about where you see your best qualities playing out in your life!
INTJ Growth Opportunities
Everyone that walks the earth has some areas they could work on. Our universal constant opportunity for growth is one of the wonderful parts of being a human being. You may have already grown beyond the qualities below, or you may feel a desire to work on some of them.
Either way, know that it’s natural to recognize a couple of areas where you can improve. You may even be surprised by how much joy and confidence can come from developing yourself!
In heated moments, you may come across as a bit arrogant.
Being so knowledgeable means you aren’t often wrong. Although it feels nice to be right, mistakes make us human and pave the way for deeper connection.
Growth Opportunity: Recognize and accept useful input from others, including in heated situations!
Some may say that you disregard emotions.
When you tend to be more focused on facts than feelings, it can be easy to forget about emotional context which is critical for relationships to thrive. This can sometimes cloud your judgment, which can make conflict grow instead of shrink.
Growth Opportunity: Before rushing toward solutions, slow down to empathize with how someone feels. You can say something like “I imagine that feels upsetting” or “It seems like you feel really excited” to show that you’re listening!
You can sometimes be critical.
Your nearly superhuman self-control can cause you to feel a bit impatient or irritated when watching others make seemingly irresponsible, selfish, or careless decisions.
Growth Opportunity: Remember that everyone has their own growth opportunities. Treat these scenarios with curiosity about their process and hope for their progress!
You may feel clueless when it comes to romance.
Your extreme rationality can sometimes make relationships feel confusing, especially during the early stages. If something happens for reasons you don’t understand, you may feel cynical.
Growth Opportunity: Instead of questioning the importance of love or your ability to experience a beautiful connection, find a program that can help you specifically. (Keep reading to see what we recommend!)
Action Step: Pick one area you would like to work on. Brainstorm a few ways you can do that, and then evaluate your progress at the end of the week!
Conclusion on INTJ Confidence
Self-knowledge is the first big step toward achieving authentic confidence.
When you let your natural strengths shine through while making the most of your growth opportunities, you may be surprised that confidence isn’t just on the other side of self-improvement…
You’ll actually start to experience greater confidence simply because you’re investing in yourself.
Your Next Steps
To level-up your communication, dating, and leadership skills, here’s what to do next!
- Read detailed tips for each of the four types of introverts: How To Be More Playful As An Introvert and Are Introverts Attractive? What Women Think
- Download our free ebook: “Why PUA Doesn’t Work For Introverts & What Works Instead.”
- To build authentic confidence by becoming the best version of you, consider our Become A Benevolent Badass program.
Through this in-depth, personal 1:1 coaching program, you’ll…
- Find your inner true north and deepest sense of self,
- Become your relaxed and playful best around others, and
- Rise up as an intentional social leader.
Become A Benevolent Badass will help you become your unique best, which will revolutionize the way you see yourself, connect with the women around you, and pursue your vision of what you’re looking for. Discover more and apply to speak with us today!
